Let Us Always Be Like Sweethearts!
Love establishes sympathy. And this is the attraction that does not die, the Spirit’s eternal grace. Not even death separates those who love each other.
When one loves, times go by, and even the marks on the face of the loved one become a thing of beauty. It is like a good wine. It gets better over the years, as long as we do not let it turn sour.
The late Alziro Zarur (1914-1979), a poet, used to say:
“Love is the enchantment of life. Life without Love is not worth anything.”
The beauty of the Spirit
But, if you court a girl, become engaged and marry her just because of her beauty, you could be in for a shock, because external fascination will pass like the wind. However, if you unite because there is Love, physical enchantment may not subsist with time; but you will love her like you did when you were young.
The same thing may happen with young girls: if you get together with a lad only because he has a muscular chest, in the future his physique will wilt. And what about your Love? Will it wither as well? What Love is that, then?! It will have been nothing but a false feeling. But, if you build a marriage with a man because you really love him, happiness will grow like secular trees, because the fondness will be infinite.
Beauty is an exquisite thing. Love, however, is greater than all of this. It establishes sympathy. And this is the attraction that does not die, the Spirit’s eternal grace. Not even death separates those who love each other.
I remember a beautiful chant of the late Zarur, in his poem “To the Legionnaire Couples”: “It is not the body that attracts:/It is the Spirit that loves.”
And, if the Spirit loves—for it was created in the image and likeness of God—this Love is permanent.
John the Baptist teaches, in his First Epistle, 4:8, that God is Love, to which Zarur thus completes: “and nothing exists outside of this Love.”
Not even the sweethearts’ love.
The Being’s basic principle
Love, above all, before being carnal, must come from the Soul. Otherwise, it can die on the first night of the honeymoon . . . But, if it is based in the Spirit and heart of both lovers, then the honeymoon will repeat itself throughout life, in spite of the squabbles that always occur now and again in the life of a couple.They will be eternally sweethearts.
These words may be too romantic in an era of everything goes. Maybe . . . Nevertheless, it is a sad mistake to believe that the meaning of Love has ended on this planet. It is disastrous to let oneself be taken away by momentary fads, because, once this fad is over, which sometimes takes a long time, you will suffer from the pains of the frustration of having denied your own nature of creature of God. Probably then you will perceive that the worst suffering is the absence of Love, a truth rejected by people of influence in the world, whose painful lesson, when putting their heads to their pillows, is the conclusion—often well hidden from others—that they are the same as everybody else: in need of affection, as their bodies need food. Obviously I am talking about the Love that is not the source of infirmities, but rather “the Being’s basic principle, the generating factor of life, which is everywhere and is everything.”
The magic touch of the little bell
When we are in love and we go meet that person who touched our sensitivity in an indelible way, we are smitten with exultation: “How happy my heart is!”
And an enchanted little bell rings inside of us: “Ding! Ding! Ding! Ding!”
One’s heart seems to jump out of one’s chest!
Sex and heart
Wouldn’t it be pleasant to hear it ring, throughout our existence, whenever we see her and, even from a distance, think about her? This is how we have to be. In this manner, sex is something beautiful, wonderful, and lasts one’s whole life. Sex is had with the heart. Love: the food of the Spirit.
The organism needs vitamins, material food. In the old days, people used to say, quite rightly, that “an empty bag does not stand up.” The same goes for the spirit. Only the delicacy of the Soul is Love, a heritage of God that He generously shares with His children.
Nowadays, Love is confused with sex. Sex is good, but without Love it is like a stench, or worse, the threat of a transmittable venereal disease. Whoever is in love does not seek distraction elsewhere, putting the person who trusts in him or her at a risk.
It is very timely, at this moment, to cite the ever inspired words of Dr. Bezerra de Menezes (1831-1900), included in his book Reflections about Jesus and His Laws (Elevação Publishing House), psychographed by the Legionnaire Sensitive Francisco de Assis Periotto: “In phases of deep suffering in which the Spirit begs the Redeemer for mercy and sustenance, invisible sources spill the torrential water of the Love of God upon our earthly existence. However, the immeasurable force that emanates from His Holiness requests our renovation. Changing habits, thoughts and actions for the better. Love will always win, and that is why pain will be motivated to disappear from our yet afflicted path.” Love stays, desire passes.
Once, I advised someone to not precipitate himself into a courtship. In nearly the same words that I used during the LGW's Youth Congress, held on June 28, 2003, in the city of São Paulo, Brazil, and which people liked, judging from what I was told. At a certain moment, I told them: “You who are young, beware when someone tells you: ‘I Love you! Give me a sign, a proof of love . . .’ Pay attention when you are asked this, because he, or she, may be saying only: ‘I desire you!’ After desire passes, oh, it will be all over! And someone may get hurt. Therefore, don’t be hasty! Love is different from desire. Love stays, desire ends.”
Courage based on God
If we truly love someone, we become stronger even for a common battle. Nothing darkens our destiny. On the contrary, it strengthens within us that which we have of most valuable, which is courage sustained in God, that courage on which other good human and spiritual qualities should be based. That is why Love is the endless fuel for those who have and experience a great and true ideal.
When the challenge appears in a couple’s path, the most appropriate reflection would be: “Now, why did we get together?! Because we loved each other! So, let us continue loving each other and overcoming the evil that perchance may wish to separate us.”
And here, I would like to cite another enlightening teaching of the extremely honorable Dr. Bezerra: “We can only strengthen the world if we do the same with marital, family union. There is no firm or safe Humanity if the family is not totally preserved.”
That’s it! A united couple is the one that lives integrated in the Heavenly Father, whose face is Love. Therefore, the more one loves, the more He manifests Himself in us, because Love is neither old nor new. It is eternal, because it is God.
And, if you do not believe in the existence of a Supreme Power attentive to your difficulties, remember that good feelings are the sustenance of your life, in such a way that you are at peace with yourself.
The main thing is that, after a few years have passed, one has raised one’s children, overcome pains and difficulties, we live always like sweethearts!